Family law attorney Stephanie Granda has represented many people during and after divorce. Here are some tips she has learned for finding gratitude after one of the most difficult experiences a person can have.
To many people, it may seem difficult to find anything to be grateful for this year. The COVID-19 pandemic has taken up so much space in our heads that fitting gratitude in there is next to impossible.
If you are dealing with any other stressors in your life, like divorce, forget about it.
Still, I think it is critical for the recently divorced to carve out a little bit of mental real estate for cultivating gratitude.
Here’s how you can start today.
Start Small
As complicated humans with preconceived notions about nuanced concepts, we tend to think of gratitude as something that comes only in large and supersized.
But gratitude can be applied to everything, even the little things in life.
The easiest way to begin using gratitude to focus yourself in life after divorce is by starting with little, mundane things.
Were you able to sleep through the night without waking up? That is cause for celebration! Isn’t it? Why must we wait to express thanks when we have so much in font of us to appreciate?
Practice Every Day
Like any other worthwhile endeavor, gratitude requires daily practice if you want to reap the benefits.
As a family law attorney, I deal with some tough cases. To center myself, I try to think of things that I have to be thankful for every day. All it takes is five minutes, and you can do it anywhere you can find a little solitude.
Learn to See Gratitude as a Practice, Not a Feeling
When you practice gratitude daily, you will begin to realize that gratitude is not merely an emotion that comes along when someone does something nice for you. It is also something that you can use and cultivate.
While I am not saying that you need to try to practice gratitude when you are angry or sad—both valid emotions that we should allow ourselves to feel—you can acknowledge that you have a lot to be thankful for even when nothing amazing has happened.
Look for Things You Are Grateful for That Happened Because Your Marriage Ended
Finally, since you are trying to get your life back on track after your divorce, it only makes sense that you should try to address your feelings regarding that difficult process. Can you find any reasons that you are grateful for your divorce?
Even a renewed sense of independence is something to acknowledge. Doing so can help you move forward, past the negative emotions that you have recently felt.
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