As a Divorce Attorney in Miami, Stephanie Granda has seen the psychological effects that divorce can have on those experiencing it. Here are five ways that she has seen people feel more empowered after the dust settles.
No matter the circumstances of your divorce, you are probably in a lot of emotional pain. What happened, you ask? Could you have prevented it? Did you make the right decision? Many people second-guess themselves. Even when the divorce was without a doubt the right call, the psychological effects can take a toll.
In my work as a divorce attorney in Miami, I come face-to-face with these effects quite often. You do not, however, have to accept feeling like you are powerless against these feelings.
You can feel empowered. You deserve to feel empowered. Here are a few tips to get you started.
Believe in Your Ability to Pick Yourself Up
You may feel beaten and bruised right now, with the divorce still fresh, but you have the ability to pick yourself up and dust yourself off—you just have to believe that you can. In some situations, it’s actually critical that you believe in yourself.
For instance, if your divorce left you in a financial tight spot, you need to be able to envision a path back to stability. You will need to set goals, follow a plan, and execute on those plans, but the first step is believing in yourself.
Find Things to Be Grateful for, Even When You Don’t Feel Like It
Gratitude is a state of mind, not a feeling. If you wait for gratitude to find you, you are going to be waiting for a long time. When you focus on what you have gained rather than what you have lost, your outlook and perspective begin to shift.
Everybody makes mistakes, and you probably made some before and during your divorce. The question is, will you find the courage to take responsibility and learn from your mistakes? It’s empowering feeling to admit that you did something wrong and change so that you don’t do it again.
Make Time to Get to Know Who You Are
In some marriages, it is easy to lose yourself. Some people feel powerless after divorce because they don’t really know who they are or what they stand for. It can be scary, but if you feel like you have been overshadowed for a long time, step into the light and take a look at who you are.
Many people who go through a divorce understand what it means to have low self-esteem. Perhaps they have internalized the belittling comments and verbal abuse that their ex-spouse hurled at them every day while they were together. Whatever the cause, accepting yourself and understanding that you have value as a person is one of the first steps to feeling empowered after divorce.
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